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Chad Hermann is a writer, editor, blogger, husband, father, and freelance communication consultant living in Squirrel Hill.

He has no time for ideological purity, nor patience for political partisanship.  He believes in sense and reason and calling 'em as he sees 'em.

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Eighteen Years

(and not counting...)

A bright, cool, beautiful morning like this one — especially this one — seems the perfect time to share one of my favorite poems from one of my favorite poets.

It’s a delicate, deceptively simple little piece about a delicate, deceptively complex part of life and love. It’s the best, most beautiful poem I’ve ever read about marriage. And it’s the lovely, lyrical refrain I can not, any October 26th — or most days, for that matter — get out of my head or of my heart.

Enjoy...

Most Like an Arch This Marriage
John Ciardi

Most like an arch — an entrance which upholds
and shores the stone-crush up the air like lace.
Mass made idea, and idea held in place.
A lock in time. Inside half-heaven unfolds.

Most like an arch — two weaknesses that lean
into a strength. Two fallings become firm.
Two joined abeyances become a term
naming the fact that teaches fact to mean.

Not quite that? Not much less. World as it is,
what’s strong and separate falters. All I do
at piling stone on stone apart from you
is roofless around nothing. Till we kiss

I am no more than upright and unset.
It is by falling in and in we make
the all-bearing point, for one another’s sake,
in faultless failing, raised by our own weight.


Posted Oct 26 2009, 10:55 AM by Chad
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Hassenpfeffer wrote re: Eighteen Years
on Mon, Oct 26 2009 11:45 AM

This one poem allows me to forgive him the barbarity of his English terza-rima translation of the Commedia. :-) Thanks for posting it!

Chad wrote re: Eighteen Years
on Mon, Oct 26 2009 12:13 PM

The more you read of his work, Hassenpfeffer, the more you'll forgive -- or even forget -- the translation.  

The man was a major talent. Hands (and heart and soul) down, my favorite modern poet. His name, and his work, will surely resurface here.

In many ways, of course, they surface here every day. He's one of the great influences on my writing, my thinking, and my teaching.

Hassenpfeffer wrote re: Eighteen Years
on Mon, Oct 26 2009 12:30 PM

I'm not sure how far you want stretch the definition of "modern," but I remain entranced by Wallace Stevens (even if I don't always understand what the bleep he's talking about) and, in a completely different way, by Robinson Jeffers.

Toadsly wrote re: Eighteen Years
on Mon, Oct 26 2009 5:49 PM

Dear Chad,

Thank you for this wonderful poem, which I've never before read. My education was in the sciences; not the arts. I appreciate your mentoring.

I've been married a score of years longer than you, and the joy a good marriage produces can never be defined or explained by mortal musings, but Ciardi comes close.

Enjoy every second of your marriage, because the years race by and, suddenly, you begin to fear the future knowing one of you is going to survive the other. I can't imagine living in a world without my best friend.

As you age, all your physical attributes decline, but the love between two people continues to grow and mature. Perhaps, love is infinite, and extends beyond the grave? I hope so.

Chad wrote re: Eighteen Years
on Mon, Oct 26 2009 6:18 PM

You should seek out Ciardi, Toadsly.  From what I can gather in your comments and our correspondence, I think you would like him very much.

And thank you, very much, for your comment here.  It's sad and sweet and achingly lovely, and it may just be my favorite TRM comment of all time.

And -- I hope so too.

Adie80 wrote re: Eighteen Years
on Mon, Oct 26 2009 7:40 PM

Chad,  

Thanks for the lovely poem.  I remember 18 years ago and the day was just as beautiful.  A little warmer, but beautiful all the same!  

Happy Anniversary to you and Wendy!